Updated: Nov 18, 2020
How do you want to be loved.
We all want to be loved in different ways.
Often we think that what feels good to us is exactly what would feel good for someone else.
Sometimes we are totally wrong.
The only way to know for sure is to get outside of ourselves and ask the question. How can I show up and provide this person with the love that they are seeking.
What makes them feel Good. Safe. Accepted. Fulfilled. Better than on their own. Loved.
In divorce, we spend a lot of time analyzing and evaluating our own needs. Of course, this is important work. Part of the process is getting to know ourselves better and getting clear about what we want from our relationships.
But equally important is becoming aware of the needs of others and understanding how we can show up for them and love them in exactly they way they need.
If you value your relationships, you need to understand them better. This awareness will have a incredible effect on the longevity, balance, connection and depth a relationship can have.
When you really love someone, you will WANT to know exactly how they want to be loved. It is the greatest way we can honor, respect and ultimately show true deep love for each other.
One of the most beautiful questions we can ask another person is how do they want to be loved. To understand all we have is listen.
The best part is, you might even find that you get exactly the love you need too.