Guest blog: Kerry Forsell on dating after divorce - just dive in
Thank you for joining me on my journey of sharing my personal experiences and learnings as I search for love as a divorced mom in her 40’s. Opening your heart after the aftermath of a divorce can be terrifying. I for one was completely lost on how to start over.
Working as Life Coach, for the past 6 years, I have partnered with women of all ages to come home to themselves. My expertise lies in helping women connect with their inner wisdom, strength, dreams and joy. My goal is to reintroduce magic and possibility into everyday life. I believe that once we reconnect to our worth, any goal can be accomplished.
Let me start by saying, I am by no means a dating expert. I am rather a biased researcher looking for personal gain. I would like to give you a front row seat to my learnings after “putting myself out there” for the past four years (and counting). My intention on staring this blog was to offer a space to be real. Nothing is wasted in dating, even when you feel like washing your hair wasn’t worth it. The good dates help you define what you are looking for, the bad dates in turn define what you don’t want. Don’t feel like washing your hair today? That’s fine! Join me every Friday for a personal account as a dating divorcee. I hope you find parts of yourself in my stories. I hope you learn from my mistakes. Most importantly, I hope you see that opening your heart is a gift not only to anyone lucky to meet you, but to yourself as well.
Recently I looked around at the amazing women in my life who are currently single, and I noticed an overarching theme that the majority of them where not willing to open up. It was timing, and there’s no good guys out there, and my job and my kids…the list goes on. Let’s be honest, dating is a lot of work. It requires effort to get to know someone. Effort to let them get to know you. To shower and get dressed. To be interesting. To be interested. To quote one of my favorite authors, Elizabeth Gilbert, “you have to participate relentlessly in the manifestation of your own blessings.” I am fully aware this quote is being taken out of context. She was not talking about finding love but rather living a full life by following our passions. I do, however, think that how we show up for ourselves, whether in love or at our job or at home with our family requires “relentless participation” We all know that the things that mean the most to us require work and dedication.
I am here to share the good, the bad and the funny. I have been ghosted, stood up, dumped and found beautiful love and connection. Most importantly I found myself. I found healing. I found my strength. I found my voice. I found my ability to laugh. My hope is that by sharing my experiences, you too are brave enough to believe in yourself and put yourself out there. There is no right time. There isn’t going to be a time that it won’t hurt, or you won’t take it personally. My trial and errors brought me back home to myself. I hope they make you laugh and realize you are not alone. Most importantly I want you to say, “if she can do it, I can too.”
You are worthy of the greatest love my friends! It all starts with you.